Before you invite someone, think about why it matters to you. Why do you want to share your church community with others? Consider the impact it has had on your life and your faith. You can even look to Scripture to guide your reasons for inviting. Every follower of Jesus is called to join God in expanding His Kingdom. Inviting someone to church is one way to do that!  (e.g., Matthew 28:19-20, Acts 2:42).

Ask God to show you who to invite. Pray:

• For a softened heart in the person you’re inviting
• For the right timing and words
• For God to give opportunities for meaningful conversations about faith
• For courage!

Consider where and how you have influence in the lives of others. Some ideas to reflect on:

• Workplace: Do you have colleagues you could invite?
• Hobbies: Are you involved in any groups or activities that could lead to meaningful conversations?
• Family Connections: Are there parents or guardians of your kids’ teammates you connect with regularly?
• Neighborhood: Who are your neighbors, and how might you engage with them?
• Frequented Businesses: Are there local shops or places you visit where you have ongoing relationships?

What might they be going through in their life right now? Is there a transition (like moving or changing jobs)? Are they experiencing a loss or facing a big decision? Recognizing these moments can help you know how to approach the invitation with sensitivity.  

As you talk to people, listen for the “Three Little Nots”  

• When things are NOT going well: When a person is experiencing a hard time, such as a job loss, grief, illness, or divorce, they often welcome encouragement and support. This is an opportune time to offer the community and practical wisdom a church can provide.
• When they are NOT prepared: This cue applies to someone who is facing an overwhelming or uncertain life event for which they feel unprepared. This can include a new parent, someone retiring, or a person dealing with a new diagnosis. In these situations, people are often more open to new sources of help and community.
• When they are NOT in church: If you know someone is disconnected from a church community, they may be longing for fellowship and connection. This is often the simplest and most straightforward opportunity to extend a friendly invitation.

The key to acting on these “nots” is to listen for them in everyday conversations. When you hear a friend or acquaintance express a struggle or need, it may be the perfect time to offer a simple, sincere invitation to join you at church. 

Consider ways to build a relationship with this person. How can you show them you care before extending an invite? Some ideas:

• Invite them over for a meal.
• Offer to help them in practical ways.

Remember that your invitation could be met with either answer. Here’s how you might respond to each:

• If they say yes: Be joyful and welcoming! Offer details on what to expect.
• If they say no: Respect their decision and thank them for considering. Keep the door open for future conversations, and continue praying for them.

Regardless of their response, continue the relationship. Keep praying for them and stay connected. If they accepted your invitation, check in with them after church. If they declined, continue to care for them and be a supportive friend. In all things, be the invitation by continuing to live out God’s love, no matter the outcome.